3 ways my terrified inner child tried to parent my kid.

Reader—

Feeling judged.
Taking it personally.
Lashing out.

We might feel guilty for how we react to our kids, especially when we're stressed out. I hated feeling like I was repeating the same cycle my parents did.

But if you ever wrestle with the urge to snap, cave, or clamp down on your child's behavior... hey, GOOD news!

You're a conscious parent.

Noticing our own behavior is a huge first step to stopping our terrified inner child from parenting our kids.

If you grew up with an iron fist...
If you felt invalidated or unheard...
If you were expected to stifle your feelings...

It makes sense that parenting without power can feel tricky.

When my inner child showed up looking for validation and trying to run the show, I asked myself 3 questions:

How would I treat my child if I weren’t afraid to ignore the people who judged me and said I was “too soft” and coddling her emotions?
What would I say to my child if I weren’t always showing up offended by her behavior and taking it personally?
What would I do if I actually felt self-regulated enough to respond to her distress with compassion and limits?

I realized I didn't need to change her behavior to feel in control, and I knew consequences wouldn't help.

But unlearning a childhood of fear, coercion, and emotional silence required the inner work that's easy to avoid when you've got a wailing kid in the supermarket.

We can do all the proactive things.
Prep for emotional outbursts.
Say the "right" words.

But what if you have a child who doesn't always "follow the script?"

You end up working twice as hard to stay connected while fighting your own emotions.

Being the one to contribute to the solution meant I had to rewrite some inner scripts.

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Remember, conscious - not perfect!
Warmly,

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