Teach Through Love

Reader, Have you ever felt overwhelmed trying to get your kids to follow the rules, only to find yourself in a constant battle for control? You’re not alone. Many of us fall into the trap of thinking that good parenting means enforcing rules and keeping kids in line. When we focus on controlling our kids, we often miss out on the bigger picture! Over the next few weeks, I’ll be taking a short break to tend to some long-overdue health matters. During this time, I’ll be posting less frequently...

Reader, I’m writing today with a vulnerable request. 🙏🏼 This is SO out of my comfort zone, and I am NOT used to asking for help in this way. So thank you for your kindness. (And if you're - in ANY way - struggling yourself right now, please read no further - and just know that I'm so glad you're here.) Some people don't realize that I'm a small one-person operation. There's no big team running things behind the scenes. And aside from the occasional virtual assistant and contracted outside...

Reader, I'm checking in this weekend to share some thoughts from my heart - and a new video about parenting under pressure. Between the day-to-day life stressors, the upcoming holiday hustle, and now the wave of emotions after the US election, I've been finding it hard to stay as grounded as I'd like. Let's just call out the elephant in the room - not everyone is optimistic about the trajectory the US is on - and the division among us only seems to grow. 😔 Families and communities are split -...

Reader - Have you ever had a dream for your family that you couldn't quite reach? If you could have ONE wish for your family and your kids - what would it be? 🏡 Would you hit REPLY and let me know? I'm trying to see something. This is my favorite time of the year. 🍁 It's sweater weather! 🍁 🥰 Yes, I looooove myself a pair of comfy jeans and a cozy sweater. But it's also the time of year when I start to think about what I've accomplished and what I want my next twelve months to look like. I've...

Reader - I recently came across a social media post from someone whose child was gushing with gratitude towards her. The post essentially said, "Here's what happens when you parent peacefully." 👀 At first, I thought, "Well, that's lovely." But then, I also thought, "My daughter would NEVER do that." It's not that I don't have a great relationship with my kid. I do. Maybe it's not in her personality to express herself like that, but even if it was, I'm not sure I'd get that kind of glowing...

Reader... It's about time we take care of YOU! I'm sure you receive lots of advice on helping your kids "do what they need to do." But who's helping you BE the kind of parent your kids need - by addressing your needs? We often put all the focus on changing our kids - being kinder, firmer, more affectionate - whatever it is - we seemed to be focused on "doing" all the "right" things. And all the suggestions out there seem to be child-centered, even though taking care of ourselves is a core...

"I feel like I'm acting. The words don't feel natural." Have you ever thought that when trying to be more compassionate with your kids - Reader? I mean, it IS a lot easier to say, "Just do what I ask!" 😬 Back when I was a young actor, we were taught a technique called "sense memory." It was this idea of using past experiences to elicit a "real" emotional response from our character's POV. I remember it wasn't always easy to recall specific events. Childhood trauma can significantly impact our...

Reader - What's the most challenging part of communicating with compassion? Does it feel awkward or stilted?Are you too angry to choose your words consciously?Maybe you're struggling to manage meltdowns without losing your patience. I've been reframing language on the internet and in our classes for over 13 years, and the one misstep most people make is focusing on the "right" words to say. Huh? 🤔 Lori, aren't you the "Conscious Communication Card" lady? Yes, but because I grew up with a lot...

Reader - This video is especially for anyone wondering why things aren't changing fast enough (👋🏻 parents of young kids). I realized that many people have this misconception about conscious parenting (or parenting in general). And it's causing a lot of unnecessary frustration and guilt. The real reason you haven't seen a change in your child's behavior yet probably isn't what you think. We tend to think of behavior as binary. ➡️ Good-Bad➡️ Right-Wrong. Maybe your idea of progress is — When I...