😳 What happens If nothing changes?

Reader —

There were times when I thought to myself, "Is this ever going to get better?"

There were days when my child pushed back hard, shredding my compassion to bits. I'd feel my chest tighten as I laid into her with words I swore I'd never use.

💥 Like that time we sat in the parking lot fighting about her going to school. "Get out of the f&*%ing car and go to class. I swear to God...!"

When I felt frustrated, embarrassed, or disrespected, it was tempting to reach for a quick and easy tool (like anger, rewards, or punishment) and claim the illusion of control.

But those interactions, if set on repeat, drain us.
It's never going to be perfect, but when we let old patterns win, everyone loses.

If you're feeling burned out from too much inner or outer conflict, I want to show you a trick to increasing your tolerance.

Because you CAN listen and set limits without shutting down.

🗓️ Join me this Wednesday, 7/16, for a FREE webinar! RSVP here.​

Because if you keep trying to pour from an empty cup, you'll end up resenting the people you love most.

And I KNOW how hard it is to break free of the past.

I grew up in a rigid and punitive family system.
It didn't feel abnormal (at the time).

I was desensitized to the sarcasm, judgment, shame, and disgust in the voices of the adults around me declaring:

"You're being ridiculous."
"You think you're so smart?"
"I don't know who you think you're talking to."

I had an "attitude."
I was "sneaky."
That's why I needed to be punished, they said.

I was told that "I needed to get my act together and stop causing so much trouble."

But the more the adults punished, the more I pushed back.

Relationships (and my behavior) became steadily more challenging — not because anyone overindulged in my feelings — but because my worth, loveability, and sense of belonging were tethered to the unpredictable moods and judgments of the adults around me.

Eventually, I stopped resisting control.
Because I learned to abandon myself.
To hide my feelings and ignore my needs.

And I carried that self-abandonment into adulthood — trying to please others, fighting, fawning, freezing. 🫩

All those survival patterns didn't just disappear when I became a parent. They followed me, and even when I knew better, they still felt like my safest option.

🧠 I wanted to be curious. But overreacting was more natural.

Parenting this way costs us far more than it gives.

✔️ Our kids lose themselves trying to please us, and we risk them ignoring our guidance. ​
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​The fear of losing control is ingrained in childhood.
It teaches us that respect must be demanded.

That's why so many of us resort to control: because it feels safer than admitting (to ourselves) we feel unloved, neglected, or overwhelmed.

You're not failing because you want relief.

The instinct to control is human (it doesn't make us bad parents).

And you're not doomed to repeat what you learned.

When conflict arises, it's a sign to pause ✋🏻— not punish!

While temporary control can bring short-term relief, I want you to have long-term influence.

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I can't wait to tell you more. Until next time, remember, it's about being conscious — not perfect!

Warmly,

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