[VIDEO] 5 questions to ask yourself​ if you want your kids to respect your boundaries.

Hi Reader,

When I was little, I loved hanging upside down on my bed. Even with all the blood rushing to my face, I would ignore the uncomfortable pressure building in my head because I loved how it made my bedroom look like a totally different place (is that weird 🤓).

Suddenly, I was no longer in the home where people blamed, shamed, and spoke in harsh tones.

In my imagination, I could have been anywhere for a few moments. A new house. A new city. A momentary escape from the disconnection and despair I felt.

It was as though this simple change in perspective offered me a sensation of unlimited potential (probably some dopamine rush associated with hanging upside down - isn't there? 😆).

But seriously, have you ever looked at something through a mirror for a reverse viewpoint - and it gives you this feeling of newness (is that just me)?

Even if you're not doing weird stuff like me - there's something about seeing things from a new standpoint that awakens a feeling of wonder and possibilities where we think, "Wow, how did I not see/think of that before?"

If we think about how our perspective influences how we treat our kids - we'll have an easier time shifting things in a positive direction.

Our communication is definitely NOT immune to our perspective. It influences daily how we speak to our kids (or anyone, really).

One (less conscious) perspective has us see our kids as:

• entitled
• embarrassing
• disrespectful

There's another (more conscious) perspective where we see them as:

• assertive
• dysregulated
• disconnected

But it's easy to get stuck in the first less conscious vantage point

If we see our kids as purposefully "bad," it's almost impossible to recognize their struggle and look beneath the surface behavior we see to reflect (without judgment) on a decision they made.

So, how do we offer quality feedback without blame, shame, judgment, or guilt?

Sometimes, we need to be a little bit more "selfish."

Here are my (oops - end-of-week) quick tips to help bring your connection closer and communicate more compassionately - without coddling or giving in to your kids!

Ahh, so the videos are a little bit late this week 🙃, but to make up for it, I'm sending TWO just in time for a NEW month.

1. Why I had to become a little more "selfish" before I could change my perspective.
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2. If you've ever felt like a "Yes" parent and need to set better boundaries (for yourself or your kids) - here are 5 questions to ask yourself first.

If we have the skills to GROW with our kids, expanding our own tolerance for stress - we can also help them develop independence, resiliency, and empathy.

Take 90 seconds for yourself today to watch (and gain a new perspective)!

(You can also catch them on Instagram - are you following me there?)

Thank you so much for reading and watching - and please remember, it's about being conscious - not perfect!

Warmly,

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