[VIDEO] How to support - not fix - your child's emotions.
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Reader, "Here's an idea. Instead of battling your child's will whenever you think they're being unreasonable, what if you just stopped and gave yourself some compassion?" This is what I [try to] tell myself when my brain starts exploding, tempting me to do all the things my parents did - that I swore I would not do to my child. 😑 I often fail. I'm a flawed being. My nervous system was primed to fight. My instincts do NOT instruct me to sit and chat about feelings when asking my kid for the 87 millionth time to do something. We're SO hard on ourselves. But I'm all about guilt-free, conscious parenting! 🙌🏻 Guiding kids without controlling their experiences is challenging - especially if our bodies are telling us their distress is a threat. And so much of the time - that's what's happening. It's unconscious. Let's transform it. Practice is so important. Watch this two-minute video to learn exactly what 3 things you can focus on to build everyone's tolerance. If you're over here feeling guilty, having trouble maintaining boundaries, or talking to yourself like... I should have done something earlier to prevent this.
Other parents don't seem to have these problems.
I'm failing at the most important job I have.
Why is this SO hard?
🛑 Stop that. (I'm kidding. Feel your feelings, but don't talk down to yourself!) Maybe you're stuck in a "fix-it" mindset - assuming your job is to correct behavior before it escalates. (It's not you - it's a problem-focused perspective courtesy of behaviorism.) 👉🏻 But fixating on behavior is EXACTLY what drags us into "Guilty Land." It's okay to have crappy days where you say the wrong things. (But if you've been feeling stuck for a while, this course will get you out of your rut.) But constant worries that you're getting it "wrong" can create a cycle of shame and anxiety, making it even harder to enforce truly necessary limits. You're doing the best you can with the skills you have right now. ✨ So take a breath, slowly start to put these simple steps into practice, and show yourself some compassion today. I hope you have a beautiful weekend! Until next time, please remember, conscious - not perfect! Talk soon. Warmly, p.s. Showing yourself compassion can be as simple as noticing your inner chatter without judgment as you deal with obstacles. Watch this quick tip before you start your day and see how things transform. |
