You don’t want “better behavior.” Here’s what you really want.

Reader—

Did you know researchers can predict whether a society will be violent with almost 100% accuracy based on just two things?

Wild, right?

I had the pleasure of meeting the man behind that research 14 years ago. His name was Dr. James Prescott, and his pioneering work on the origins of love and violence influenced everything I teach about ending cycles of harm.

He passed away last month, and given the current state of America, I often think about his work and how it relates to our mission here.

Before I tell you what his two findings were (one is about child-rearing), I want to tell you that our annual Parenting Essentials Membership sale is now on until 9/22.

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You can't plan your way out of disorganized, messy days if you're not emotionally flexible.

Because plans change.
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I know what it’s like to slip into cranky parenting.
To feel impatient.
Unkind
Saying things I swore I wouldn’t. 😔

If you’ve ever been there (or are there now) — please know your “meanness” isn't a character flaw.

It’s your nervous system asking for a break under a lot of buried crap (thoughts, beliefs, events), and helping others IS not on the agenda.

Because if your nervous system sees connection as a demand, it will retreat.
You can’t talk yourself out of that.

You probably WANT to help your kids, but you're so wound up that you can't co-regulate with them.

If YOUR outbursts (or your child's) 😡 are becoming TOO much to handle — here’s how to stop letting your emotions dictate how you behave.

Because you don't want better behavior. You really want:

It NOT to be such a big deal every time you ask your kid to do something.
To stop blaming yourself (or everyone else) when things don’t go as planned.
The people you love to consider your feelings once in a while (like you constantly considering theirs).
Someone to understand how hard it is to reject the parenting advice everyone else swears by.
To finally be able to ask for help before you crash out from taking on too much.
Some recognition for all the things you do for your kids.

When you’re told that giving attention to BIG feelings will only make kids MORE upset, of course, you’re going to try to shut them down.

But then you joined the Parenting Essentials Academy and realized that ignoring the dysregulation only made it worse (and now you know exactly what changes you need to make).

Oh, and those 2 predictors of a violent society: our attitudes on pre-marital sex AND how we raise our babies (with love).

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Warmly,

p.s. Parenting Essentials sale ends 9/22. Click here if you're done living with that pounding in your chest every time you hear your kids shout, “NO!”