When behavior isn’t the whole story.

Hi Reader,

"I hope you grow up to have a daughter just like you," my Mom would declare with a tinge of bitterness in her tone.

She'd usually repeat this after a disagreement.
I didn't understand her, and she did not understand me.

I don't doubt she loved me.

But it was hard to feel through the wall of disconnection built of miscommunication.

My Mom has passed away, so I can't ask her, but I suspect some of our clashes could have been avoided.

There were always people telling her what to do.
People who made her believe my behavior told the whole story.

Gosh, I wish I'd had a translator back then.
​Someone to explain my point when I felt unheard.

Well, I did grow up to have a child "just like me."
She's sensitive, thoughtful, and stubborn. 😀

Some of my child's behaviors seem baffling, too.

And I recognize that familiar thought of "Why are you being like this? I'm trying to help you."

I'm often thrown back to how my Mom probably felt.
How easily she could misinterpret what I was saying.

So, I'm going to be your translator today.

When you've been:

• kind
• empathetic
• patient

and it feels like you're only receiving:

• refusal
• backtalk
• eye-rolling

And you're ALSO thinking, "How can you be so (fill in the blank) when I'm trying to help you?"

I want to wipe the confusion from your lens.

Because when outside influences cloud our perspective, we can miss the silent pain our kids are enduring (but can't name).

If this resonates with you and you also want to understand how your words can either increase tension — or motivate kids to express themselves in healthy ways...

Don't forget, I'm hosting a live three-week series starting next week, Tuesday 2/10.

I miss connecting live, and I can't wait to talk about communicating with kids who can be explosive, hard to understand, or sensitive to everything you say.

And there are two easy ways to join.

Option 1: Register for the live series only.​

Option 2: Enroll in an on-demand course (live series is included)

If you were thinking of enrolling via a class, you can still save $100 on any series until tonight, Wednesday, 2/4.

We’ll focus on:

• figuring out which communication patterns unintentionally escalate resistance.
• recognizing why “good communication tips" still feel threatening to certain nervous systems.
• adjusting our perspective to respond in ways that reduce power struggles instead of reinforcing them.
• removing power and control from our language to create inner safety.

My goal: stay influential (not controlling) when my child pushes back.

I know the key to that is inside the communication habits I’ve unknowingly inherited and rehearsed (often in moments when my own nervous system is under strain).

Those are the times I forget how much sway (for good) I really do have.

Parents of kids who refuse to be unheard, let's talk about it together.

​Register for the live series only.​
​OR
​Enroll in an on-demand course.​
Access details will be in your classroom under "live sessions."

Let's stop using language that (mistakenly) harms our influence.

I'd love to see you there.

Warmly,

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p.s. Have questions about which course is right for you? Email me! I'm happy to help.

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