Teach Through Love

Reader, I have been waiting to share my conversation with Dr. Nicole Cain with you, and it's finally here! Has anyone (including me) ever told you to "breathe" when you were freaking out and you thought, "Please don't tell me to just breathe?" I get it. Breath work is great until it isn't... enough. If you grew up in a stressed or emotionally neglectful environment, you probably learned to handle crises like an Olympic champion — with laser focus and determination. 💪🏼 You CAN handle the big...

Reader— I've been busy behind the scenes reorganizing and updating everything! Why? Because everyone offers a certification program these days. But what most professionals really want is a science-backed, easy-to-use parenting framework. I had to make a choice about how to move forward in a way that made business sense while still offering something truly viable for you. The truth is, I’m absolutely in love with my program. 🌟 I’ve not only experienced the benefits first-hand (as a Mom AND...

Reader, Looking back at my childhood with the wisdom of distance, I laugh, thinking, “Well, duh. Of course, I was anxious.” But back then, I didn’t understand that the behaviors that always seemed to get me in trouble (no matter how many times I was punished) were directly tied to my anxiety. The adults told me instead: “You’re so rude, irresponsible, sensitive, moody, aggressive…” Those symptoms: the moodiness, agitation, the sharp tongue — what looked like an attitude was actually anxiety....

Hi Reader, I was thinking the other day how I unknowingly almost passed down the same cycles of control and behavior-fixing that my parents used with me. Until I became aware of how my reactions (and all that silent fury at my child’s desire for autonomy) were tied to my own history of feeling ignored and unworthy, I was destined to repeat the same power-over patterns. Without that self-awareness of what I really needed, I would have asked her to change herself (aka: her behavior) to make ME...

Reader — I remember a time when I found myself thinking, “I’m being empathetic. Things are improving. So why am I still so frustrated?” There seemed to be something missing in those days. I’d follow the steps. First, I’d try to “regulate” and then I’d help my child. We were using the sensory tools, and my kid was feeling pretty good. But I was a mess. I was tired of listening. I was out of patience. I felt... neglected. Who was this helping? Is compassion ever the wrong response?Was building...

Hi Reader — Your webinar replay and slides handout are now ready to watch (thank you for your patience — there were some video upload challenges). ✨ Here's a quick recap of the highlights: Your struggles validated. Know what to do when your control brain takes over. Change the patterns that keep you stuck. Thank you to everyone who joined us. It was so great to connect live! If you missed us, take some time for yourself today — you won't regret it! 👉🏻 Watch it here. Have a great weekend! And...

Reader, I know that sitting here behind my computer proclaiming, "You can set boundaries without punishing or losing it with your kids," can seem unsatisfying. Great in theory, but it can feel almost impossible to achieve some days. How can we have both personal peace and regulated kids when our needs always seem to compete? I want them to stop making noise.They won't stop yelling.And then... we snap. Like struggling children, we also can't think past the present moment when we're...

Reader — There were times when I thought to myself, "Is this ever going to get better?" There were days when my child pushed back hard, shredding my compassion to bits. I'd feel my chest tighten as I laid into her with words I swore I'd never use. 💥 Like that time we sat in the parking lot fighting about her going to school. "Get out of the f&*%ing car and go to class. I swear to God...!" When I felt frustrated, embarrassed, or disrespected, it was tempting to reach for a quick and easy tool...

Reader— It's another week when my words fail me. The growing, tragic loss of life. The heartbreak of thousands and thousands of people. 😢💔 I'm fully aware that suffering, death, and tragedy are not new. But it doesn't make my heart ache any less for the victims of the Texas floods. My heart goes out to everyone affected by this tragedy. I join the millions around the country who are praying for your peace and comfort. 🙏🏼 I don't ever want to become numb to unnecessary death and destruction....